Heart or Mind?

Do you listen to your heart or your mind? How do you know which one to listen to? Is it better to listen to one over the other? Is there even a right answer? Honestly, I am still trying to figure it out.

It is an internal battle I constantly have because I never know which one to listen to. If I let my mind guide me, it protects my heart from getting hurt, BUT it also means I am not giving my heart the opportunity to be open. How do we find that balance?

I think we’ve all had that one person that we held on to longer than we should have because we were guided by our emotions. That sometimes leads us to let people get away with things that we know we are not ok with, that don’t always make sense and that we don’t understand. In the long run, we can end up getting hurt because we aren’t balancing out what we feel with what our mind tells us. If we let ourselves be guided by our hearts, our feelings and emotions can take over, which can leave us blinded to logic and rationale.

On the other hand, listening to our heart can also lead us to some of the most amazing experiences and moments that perhaps listening to our minds could have deprived us from. Sometimes our minds are too logical and we tend to overthink and overanalyze situations instead of allowing things to play out as they are meant to be. Our minds can be quick to tell us that someone “may not be the one,” our mind will point out flaws, and can often lead us to build walls that stop us from listening to our hearts.

So how do we find balance to make sure one isn’t overpowering the other? I still don’t know, which is why I’d love to leave this as an open-ended question to see what you guys think.

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¿Mente o corazón? ¿Como sabes a cuál escuchar? ¿Quizá es mejor ser guiado por uno más que el otro? ¿A caso a hay una respuesta que sea correcta? La verdad no sé, y aun estoy tratando de entender.

Es una batalla que siempre tengo porque nunca se a cuál escuchar, ya sea a mi mente o a mi corazón.  Si dejo que mi mente me guie, eso me protege de situaciones de las cuales puedo salir lastimada, PERO también significa que no le estoy dando a mi corazón la oportunidad de permanecer abierto.

Pienso que todos hemos tenido a esa persona a la cual nos aferramos más de lo debido porque nos dejamos guiar por nuestros sentimientos. Eso a veces nos puede llevar a dejar a esas personas a hacer cosas con las cuales no estamos de acuerdo y que ni nosotros mismos entendemos. A largo plazo, puede que terminemos lastimados porque no supimos balancear lo que sentimos con lo que nos decía nuestra mente. Si nos dejamos guiar por nuestros corazones, es probable que nuestras emociones y nuestros sentimientos nos controlen, y muchas veces nos ciegan de lo que lógico y racional. ¿Como encontramos ese balance para no dejar que uno no tome más poder sobre el otro?

Por el otro lado, dejarnos guiar por nuestros corazones nos puede llevar a tener de las mejores experiencias y momentos que quizá nuestras mentes nos hubieran impedido disfrutar. A veces nuestras mentes suelen ser demasiado lógicas y nos llevan a pensar de más y sobre analizar situaciones en vez de dejar que las cosas sucedan como deben ser. Nuestras mentes inmediatamente nos dicen que “no sean la persona adecuada”, nuestras mentes se enfocan en defectos, y muchas veces nos llevan a cerrarnos de escuchar a nuestros corazones.

¿Como es que encontramos ese balance? Aun no lo sé, y es por eso que les dejo esta pregunta a ustedes para ver qué es lo que piensan.

419 thoughts on “Heart or Mind?

  1. Idk? It’s so hard for me because I’ve been, betrayed, cheated by family, friends & Significant Other. I guess it depends on each individual experience? I have trust issues, so sometimes that makes me overthink & overanalyze every little thing. I have built those emotional walls around me that you wrote about. When the mind wants one thing & the heart another thing. It makes me feel like a battle of the Ying & Yang. I don’t believe there is One right Answer. I guess we go through phases in life where you trust one more than the other then eventually we find out which one we feel more comfortable with? It’s that the balance? I Love this question!! I’ve changed my answer so many times already. I’m a guy, so Im curious if it’s different from Woman perspective?

    1. Thank you so much for your answer!!! I agree with you that it does depend on each one of our own experiences because at the end of the day our experiences shape who we are, and who we are guides our decision making. I do not speak for women, but more so for myself, and what I can tell you is that I am very much guided by my mind because I am very protective of my heart. Right now I am working so hard toward pursuing my goals that I feel a need to protect my heart from someone who could break it or get in the way of me accomplishing them. The mistake with that is that I am being guided by fear, and in the long run that could lead me to miss out on special people. I am working on getting better at listening to my heart because I think what is most important is to find a balance 🙂

  2. Hey Cindy,

    Read “Heart or Mind?” two nights and decided to really give this some thought.

    “If I let my mind guide me, it protects my heart from getting hurt, BUT it also means I am not giving my heart the opportunity to be open.”

    So how do we find balance to make sure one isn’t overpowering the other?

    Maybe there’s no cookie-cutter answer to these questions. Maybe the answer is just as unique as we are. If we are all unique with different opinions and these opinions were built by our own unique experience throughout our lives. These experiences give both our hearts and minds the tools needed to make a decision.

    With that said… I found listening to either my mind or heart, to be one of my biggest challenges. Why? Maybe its because the world is filled with so many variables that we simply can’t predict the outcome. I’m trying to eliminate my expectations of other people. (That includes all types of relationships, including family & friends.) But without forgetting that I have expectations for people that I want to give my time and energy to. Hoping that by just staying as the one constant piece for these questions and only focusing on improving myself will help me find my answer.

    Maybe that is my unique answer to those questions.

    1. Hi Nando! Thank you so much for your response! I agree with you, that perhaps there is no cookie cutter answer for this question, I think it definitely depends on each one of us as individuals. As you mentioned, I do think that working on being the best versions of ourselves will definitely help us make better decisions. As for me, I will do just that and leave the rest in God’s hands 🙂

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