The Power Of One Word

I have been trying to figure out how to start writing about this, but it’s been pretty challenging. I think it is mainly because it is a sensitive subject and it makes me very uncomfortable, but my heart tells me I should write about it.

We live in a world where we often times get too caught up with trying to please others that we lose the essence of who WE are. More often than not, a yes that compromises our values seems like the better answer than the no that allows us to keep our integrity. Saying no takes a lot of courage and strength. It takes knowing who you are, and who you want to be.

We are constantly surrounded by temptation and all sorts of societal pressures. If we say no, we fear missing out, getting judged,  and losing people. What we don’t realize is that our decisions are sometimes being manipulated by our circumstances and causing us to sometimes lose track of what WE want. I am not saying that “no” is always going to be the better decision, but learning WHEN to say no, can be one of our most powerful tools.

This is an art I am still trying to master, but what I could tell you is that the times that I’ve had the will-power to say no in the past, have brought me some of my greatest prides. One of these for me has been dealing with men. Being a woman in the business is not easy, and a lot of the time some men feel like they have the position and power to convince you to do what they want. They offer you “shortcuts” to attaining your dream job, they threaten you and say you will regret your decision, or sometimes they use the materialistic things they have to offer to manipulate you. What I have learned is that if your values are set straight and you are aware of who you are and who you want to be, you will always have the strength and courage to say no when you want to. It may be intimidating to say no at first, but you will find that it is always worth it. In fact, you will realize that although some people will not like your decision, MOST people will respect it, and will respect you.

Be strong and don’t let yourself get forced or manipulated into situations you will later regret. Truth is: you don’t have to do ANYTHING you don’t want to do. Don’t lose who you are to please someone else. I know it is not easy, and not everyone is going to appreciate it, but the ones that matter will. If you feel like you’re compromising your values and integrity, then you’re compromising way too much.

If you’re going to do something, make sure you do it because YOU want to, not because of the circumstances or other people.

 

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He estado tratando de ver cómo voy a comenzar a hablar sobre esto, pero ha sido un poco complicado. Quizá es porque es un tema delicado y me siento bastante incomoda hablar sobre él, pero mi corazón me dice que lo haga, así que lo haré.

Vivimos en un mundo en el cual a veces nos preocupamos demasiado por complacer a los demás, que perdemos la esencia de quienes somos nosotros mismos. En varias ocasiones un sí que compromete nuestros valores parece ser más fácil que un no que nos permite mantener nuestra integridad. El decir “no” en realidad requiere de mucha fuerza y valor. Requiere el saber quiénes somos realmente, y quienes queremos ser.

Constantemente estamos rodeados de tentaciones y presiones sociales. Si decimos no, tememos el ser juzgados, perder oportunidades y a gente sin darnos cuenta que nuestras decisiones a veces son manipuladas por nuestras circunstancias. Esto nos causa a perder la noción de lo que NOSOTROS queremos. No estoy diciendo que el decir “no” siempre va a ser la mejor decisión, pero el aprender CUANDO debemos de decir no puede ser una de nuestras mejores armas.

Este aún es un arte que estoy tratando de dominar, pero lo que si puedo decir es que las veces que eh tenido la fuerza de voluntad para decir no son de las veces que más me enorgullecen. Entre esas veces está el saber trabajar con los hombres. El ser mujer en esta industria no es fácil, y muchas de las veces van a haber ciertos hombres que sienten tener el poder y la autoridad para convencerte a hacer lo que ellos quieran. Te ofrecen “maneras rápidas” de obtener el trabajo de tus sueños, te amenazan diciéndote que te vas a arrepentir con tu decisión, o a veces te ofrecen cosas materiales para manipularte. Lo que he aprendido es que si tienes tus valores claros y estas consiente de quien eres y quien quieres ser, tendrás la valentía de poder decir no siempre que TU quieras.

Hay que permanecer fuertes y no dejarnos ser forzados ni manipulados a tomar decisiones de las cuales nos arrepentiremos. Recuerden que no tenemos que hacer NADA de lo que nosotros no queramos. No pierdas la esencia de quien tu eres por complacer a alguien más. Sé que no es fácil, y no todos apoyarán tus decisiones, pero esa gente que en realidad importa si lo harán. El comprometer tus valores y tu integridad es comprometer demasiado.

Si vas a hacer algo, que sea porque TU lo quieres, no por personas o circunstancias externas.

1,941 thoughts on “The Power Of One Word

  1. Yet again another impresessive blog Cindy! Reality is the word and respect is what your words deserve.
    Bendiciones Cindy keep up the good work hermosa 🙂

  2. Qué palabra tan fuerte y la vez dócil. Cada letra que usaste para explicar la palabra la explicaste muy bien. Felicidades y siempre sigue adelanté que nada te detenga. Ten fe, creé y todo será posible… Dios bendiga cada letra, Palabra y historias que cuentes…

    1. Hola Nestor!! Wow en realidad no sabes lo que significan tus palabras para mi. Que lindo mensaje, muchas gracias! Amen y siempre con fe 🙂 Te deseo muchas bendiciones!

  3. Nuevamente super encantada con tu vlog. Gracias por comprartir con nosotros estas lecciones. I love your work and the way you are, always so positive although I don’t know you in person se que erez una persona muy linda, Dios te bendiga siempre. Keep doing you!

    1. Miriam thank you so much for always being so supportive!! Just trying to spread positive messages 🙂 I am so glad you enjoy them <3 Hope we get to meet one day!

  4. Thank you for such powerful words, you are amazing and strong and brave see how far you’ve come sin dejarte manipular por personas so proud of you girl, now you can look at someone straight in the eye and say but I lived though it and it made me who I am today☺️. You have a such good heart, may god bless you and keep you safe always. Sigue así hermosa💕

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